My clients come to me because they find themselves under tremendous pressure. They feel pushed from the outside and from within, to be better, stronger, more self-sufficient. To provide, to perform. To be like their parents, to never be like their parents. Even “evolved” folks (this is Asheville, after all!) are not immune to the pressure, and our sensitivity and spirituality become cramped performances.
We didn't make the rules. Knowing no escape from the pressure, we play along. But in the process, maybe we forget how to be close without being in control, how to be sexual without drugs or show, how to relax on the weekend. We are hurt, but there is no one to tell, so we get lonely. Maybe we try to think our way through it (“anxiety”), maybe we go numb or hate ourselves for screwing it up (“depression”). Maybe we take refuge from the cold in drugs, alcohol, pornography, affairs, or possessions (“addiction”). Maybe we hold it all in our body until our insides hurt and we don’t know why (“anger issues”). Then we judge the hell out of ourselves for not having it together.
I care about this pain because I have been there. I started waking up because other people in my life were paying for my attempts to keep it together. I’m still waking up. Along the way, there were those who helped me see that beneath all my attempts to control was a basic goodness. When I started to believe this, I started taking responsibility, and things started getting better. This is where my skills are. I can meet your experiences—even the very painful ones—without judgment, and help you do the same. It’s absolutely amazing what happens when we learn to “un-judge” ourselves.
If you’re feeling yourself buckle under The Pressure, there is hope. Without the right help, being human is like spending decades taking an exam that no one prepared you for. You don’t have to think your way through this anymore, and you don’t have to do it alone.
I work with adults of all gender identities. I work with individuals of any race, class, ethnicity, sexual orientation, age and ability. Learn more about me and my practice. If it sparks something,
I hope to learn more about you and meet in-person.
44 Merrimon Ave, Asheville, North Carolina 28801, United States
Monday: 8:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Wednesday: 8:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Friday: 8:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.
Saturday: 9:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m.